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PrettyLady_Designer's avatar

You need to tell him that if SHE 'invited' HIM to start a running club with her, this translates to her wearing a big red sign: "Hey! Doofus! Ask me out!"

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Fit To Teach's avatar

God I know I know. I swear the kid pulls on the door with the big sign that says push.

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J. Allen's avatar

This is so good—what an incredible story and the Tyrion line is spot on. We are what we are, no changing that.

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Fit To Teach's avatar

Own your faults. Make it your armor. I remember reading that line when I was 16, and even then it struck me as one of the wisest things I had ever heard.

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Darren B's avatar

I once asked a girl out in front of her roller derby team. She did not say yes but nobody laughed at me. I think about that from time to time.

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Fit To Teach's avatar

Lol. Maybe theres a psychopath out there that doesn't get affected by this stuff...but asking out girls is always tough. Way to take the chance anyway.

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Granite's avatar

I once did this in a freshman college classroom. I was ostracized for YEARS after this.

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Christina Ariadne's avatar

This was really sweet… one of my ex boyfriend’s has a lazy eye. I didn’t care one iota, he was still hot

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Fit To Teach's avatar

Lol. I can't wait to show him this comment.

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𝓐fra 𝓜asud's avatar

I wish that there were more teachers like this, who give advice about life and it's many struggles and beauties. I am so happy that Chris has you!

The relationships we have with our teachers are truly something special!

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Fit To Teach's avatar

Thank you for the compliment! I do think most teachers have at lest one or two kids that they connect with really well. The math teacher gets along with kids that actively avoid my P.E. class. lol

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𝓐fra 𝓜asud's avatar

Lol

For me it was two people. First my college counselor. It was very funny and beautiful because she's a gay, Jamaican in her 30s, while I am a Muslim, straight, first generation Bangladeshi. I love her with all my heart though 💜

And then it was my English teacher.

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Fit To Teach's avatar

I don't know if we're all open minded, but most of the teachers I know don't give two shits about the color of your skin, the culture you celebrate, or who gets your bottom half going. They care about the character of the kid and the small ways we can help shape them.

Happy that you found two great teachers that you loved.

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Dave Williams's avatar

This is wonderful. One thing that never changes is fear of rejection and a young man's insecurity. Been there, done that.

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Fit To Teach's avatar

Been there. Still there. Always working on it.

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Frederick Fullerton's avatar

I had better luck when the girl/woman asked me out first.

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Fit To Teach's avatar

Always nice when it happens

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Granite's avatar

Yeah, it’s usually worth it unless you’re genuinely okay being in the friend zone. I often was, due to being a lonely weird repressed young man. Like - I was very rarely attracted to anyone whose personality I didn’t like, even if romance was off the table. I’ve frequently genuinely desired the friendship of people who turned me down.

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Fit To Teach's avatar

I think If i'm interested in romance, I have to ask. If would kill me if I didn't ask, and them someone else did, but as I always tell my kids in health class, different strokes for different folks.

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Crimson's avatar

If you actually want to be real with these young guys ask them if they have been made insecure by the porn being pushed at them online and being gaslit about it that it’s perfectly natural their whole lives. That would take courage.

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Fit To Teach's avatar

Certainly part of the conversation. But you gotta be able to ask the girl out before we get to the consensual sex talk.

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Crimson's avatar

Boys are gaslit to oblivion that they “like” porn - there sickened by it but go back for the massive dopamine hit. We let these companies pray on boys then gaslight them about it.

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Crimson's avatar

Boys cant consent to what they see when they google sex, we need to talk about that too

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Simon Brooks's avatar

Brilliant! I loved the closing story, too. Thanks for sharing.

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Fit To Teach's avatar

Ahhhh, she was a keeper :)

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